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Street Theatre #2 – PDA

Street Theatre #2

Public Displays of Affection

Scene Location:
1 of 4 very nice coffee spots and I’m not telling you which one.
Do I ever tell you which one?

Scene time:
7ish on a Saturday night.
Door opens:
Miss Blonde Semi Big Hair and later day Mr Saturday Night Fever enter


he’s got the not cool but thinks they are glasses
he’s shorter than her and with the cool guy goatee
she’s got the 5″ stilettos on
she’d be taller than him without them
she aint in to him or his antics
she says it with her eyes and postures
she isn’t in to these kind of public displays either
he goes on tip toes to kiss her ear
he’s kissing her neck
he’s kisses her cleavage
he caresses her cheek (yeah not the upper one)
she aint diggin’ this at all
he’s got the markin’ my property thing going on
she’s gettin’ angry
she moves away on pretense
he follows her grinning


he reaches for her and gets nothin’ but air
she’s moved away again
she so wants to just slap him
he shuffles her towards door
she’s got fire coming out her ears
HER fire almost matches red of her dress
he’s trying to corral her out the door
she trips a little cuz he’s in the way
she pushes past him out the door
he skips out behind her
she goes to car and waits
he goes to drivers side and gets in
she opens her door and gets in
she’s talkin’ the second the car door closes
she don’t look pleased
car pulls away, nice Audi

Bear names Relationship Soap Opera; “At The Brassy Rail”.

Bear has alternative more classic spaghetti western title as backup;

The Good The Bad And The Whipped

Is my delicacy with the more classic title appreciated?

Public Displays of Affection

It really isn’t that difficult a concept. I hope the guy in this story was just crass and thought he was just being affectionate but I really don’t believe so. There was to much evidence to the contrary. He was showing off for whom ever cared to look. It was a display of ownership.

I believe in the public display of affection. I even think it is cute when you see a couple with a hand in the other persons back pocket as they stroll along. The odd butt pat/pinch aint bad either. Generally delivered just to see you jump.

There are things you shouldn’t be doing male or female because they show your insecurity, your inconsideration and your territorial affliction.

Verily I testify the word that strands out in my mind is embarrassing. I saw that in the Woman’s face and demeanor. You don’t want to embarrass anyone or yourself. I can appreciate that level of affection if it was affection but in this case, it wasn’t the case.

It doesn’t take much thought to know what the boundaries are. Someone seeing what I saw could come to other conclusions than the one I made. It also makes you seriously wonder about the individuals behaviour in other settings. There are times we all have a certain amount of “it’s just strangers around” so actions between a couple have no consequence.

The thing is you just don’t know if somewhere down the road one of those strangers is going to remember you. I’m here to tell you it happens and it can be very uncomfortable. No it wasn’t what I did. It was what I saw and remembered and related at a later date.

I’m a believer of a place for everything and everything in its place. I also believe that if you’re discreet all the world is a bedroom if that is something you and your companion choose. You’re supposedly an adult so you know the risks involved. Carpe Ursine! errrrr Diem   😉

G.R. Hambley – all rights reserved
October 04, 2015


8 responses to “Street Theatre #2 – PDA

  1. Sabiscuit October 10, 2015 at 6:17 am

    Reminds me of a date from hell where one hour in, my companion barks something about not being able to understand English, and fifteen minutes later, is caressing my hand and trying to put his head on my shoulder. I was thinking, this man believes a woman is something to which one does things. I stared at the wall instead. It was much more attractive. I understand the woman very well, the man is probably being affectionate outside but when they’re alone he probably does nothing but belittle her. I’m judging the situation without knowing anything but people who are secure in a relationship don’t need to do the concert performance. x


    • G. R. Hambley October 10, 2015 at 7:45 am

      It’s a shame when anyone has to go through the hell. Your descriptor of “hell” is an excellent choice.

      The attitude displayed as soon as they were out of the public forum so to speak does speak volumes to my mind. I wouldn’t go as far as to say belittling her cuz that we just don’t know. Possessive, dominating to some degree and insecure I say absolutely.

      I appreciated how the woman kept it together until reaching a place where behavioural commentary wouldn’t be embarrassing for anyone publicly. From what I saw, aint no one would get away with belittling that woman and good for her. Good for everyone male and female that won’t tolerate that behaviour and handle it with class.

      Another word that comes to mind is displaying. Women do it too. Been on that end of it myself. Peeling someone off that is hung on you like wallpaper isn’t a whole lot of fun, for anyone.

      Try this one.

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  2. Sabiscuit October 10, 2015 at 7:50 am

    I thoroughly enjoy your people watching posts. Not that anyone could resist you, Gary. (Clings like wallpaper).


    • G. R. Hambley October 10, 2015 at 7:55 am

      Thank you Ms Biscuit.

      Clung together is beautiful and fulfilling when it is shared and even heartening to see when it isn’t the ownership look what is mine display.

      The hand in each others pocket comes to mind!

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      • Sabiscuit October 10, 2015 at 7:58 am

        Yes, actually I really like seeing that especially when the couples are roughly the same height. Romance is in the tentative gestures. Appreciate the link to the other post I read it and commented. I’m planning to print it out tomorrow. I have to be at work on Sunday and I should definitely read it again during my downtime. x


      • G. R. Hambley October 10, 2015 at 8:06 am

        It was in the writing of that piece that convinced me I needed a freer response site to exercise my intelligent donkey and SPASM was born. I softened up my original responses.

        Enjoy the reading and hey work too if possible!


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  3. Simona October 10, 2015 at 12:50 pm



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