Life Coaching, Observations, Reflections, Things that make you go hmmmmm
We are about a year away from the next election in Ontario. The “No Wynne” Liberals are in full save their collective of asses mode.
Billion dollar scandals; The Liberals are infamous for billion dollar scandals! Over paying for electricity, multiple billions in the dumping of surplus electricity, not building gas plants and of course an oldie and a real goodie, the Billion dollar scandal attached to eHealth Ontario.
I’ve been dealing with chronic pain for almost ½ my life. First week of June I’ll be going to a new to me pain clinic. There is nothing of my past history following me around that is readily available to the staff of that clinic. Nothing they can review prior to seeing me for the first time. There is no historical data to compare against.
I’m going to have to relate everything, again. I’m going to have to fill out the same condition information sheets, again. I’m going to have to sign releases, again. I have to do these things all again because there is nothing attached to me for clinic staff to review.
Fortunately, I keep pretty fair records and they are all electronic. The information I’ve got will still require review. We’re going from ground zero and we shouldn’t have to. Part of the reason we have to start over when there is a change, because of the Billion dollar eHealth mess up courtesy of Ontario’s Governing Liberals.
True Wynne wasn’t Premiere in 2009 and McGuinty was. Also true Wynne and her Liberals have screwed up eHealth even more. With performance as the yardstick, I have to believe patronage with Wynne’s brother-in-law attached to eHealth.
Let me make it easy for you and me, your search parameter is, “Kathleen Wynne eHealth Ontario”. You aint gonna like it.
Signing the release to obtain is no guarantee what is being asked for is going to be delivered by the record holder to the record owner, me.
Two requests were made to obtain by my current doctor of my previous doctor. The requests went unanswered.
I’ve had the who owns the records conversation briefly with 2 different doctors over the last couple days. We all agree, the records belong to the patient. Without the patient there are no records to make.
You can get a vehicle repair/maintenance report from a dealership on a used vehicle you are purchasing. If the vehicle is plugged in to the system you get what has been entered. The dealership or mechanics that have worked on the vehicle don’t own the records, the vehicle owner does.
No more should we ever be having a problem with accessing our health records. The capability is here.
Is it fair to have a doctor go back 20 years and convert the patient file to “E” format? No, it isn’t. Is it unreasonable in this age for a doctor to be providing “E” data to the rightful owner after a current visit, no. The vehicle owner gets the mechanics report so why wouldn’t an individual get a report on their machine from the mechanic doctor?
Yes I understand there are a number of hurdles but the end goal is attainable. The end goal is for an individual to be able to control their own historical health information. The end goal would be much closer had Ontario’s Liberals not blown that Billion dollars.
Does Ontario’s Premiere Wicked Witch Wynne really care about the people as she would now have you believe? Electricity rate reduction and high speed rail Toronto – Windsor corridor to name a couple recent carrots being dangled for the proletariat.
“No Wynne” doesn’t care about the people and never has. Shouldn’t hold that against her though. I can’t name any politicians that care about the people. If they did, those politicians would get their party leaders in touch with the peoples anger and voice.
Kathleen Wynne does care about her bullying agenda and telling people what is absolutely best for them. Give Wynne pushback and she brands you or plays a card. The exception being showing up at her doorstep. Do that and then she’ll bend over and kiss your butt.
I came to these conclusions based on Wynne’s performance and oddly enough, Wynne’s lack of performance. You can bet big that Wynne and her Provincial Liberals are on board with the Federal Liberals in trying to eradicate free speech. See Federal Motion, M-103.
How soon do you think the Liberals will introduce “Governmentaphobia” in to a revised motion? All so you can’t talk about government with the scorn and disgust they so richly deserve!
I’ve used and will continue to use this Heritage Plaque that I pass 3 or 4 times a week. We as Ontarians and Canadians are entitled to a certain standard and we just aren’t getting it. Municipal to Provincial to Federal, we aren’t getting what we’re entitled to.
It isn’t wrong to be angry. It isn’t wrong to be vocal. What you do with the anger and the voice can be wrong. Those who would like to make you eat your anger and shut off your voice, that is called emotionally controlling and they’re the ones who are wrong.
Ontario’s next election is on or before June 07, 2018, be relevant!
G.R. Hambley May 27, 2017
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Medical Assisted Dying Bill C-14
Why do you care? Why is it important to you that I must care about your cause or what you believe?
The worst thing you can do to a Canadian is make them care. We love not having to care. Cause Groups would be much better off asking people not to care.
You would be better served if I don’t care. It’s when you make me care that I have to say and or do something. You’d be better served asking me to continue to not care. I can usually do that quite nicely.
Why is it important to you that I care who you have sex with? Why is it important to you whom I have sex with? If you aren’t doing it with me, a child, or someone that you’ve tied up and are keeping as a pet against their will, knock yourself out. I don’t care!
In truth I do have a small issue with those of the Bisexual persuasion. There aren’t enough of the Asexual to cancel the Bisexual out. Quit being so damn selfish, pick one and leave some “something something” for others!
Canadians are not selfish and don’t appreciate those that are. No one really does care for the selfish; we’re just real vocal about it.
People who know me love that I don’t care. Those same people know and do appreciate that I’m not averse to beating people with a lamppost if necessary to make people to stop trying to make me care about their cause or rite.
The lamppost? Think “Oz, Wizard Of” and the good Witch warning the Wicked Witch she could get a house dropped on her too. My delivery of the warning is pretty much in the same style and tone of “Glinda The Good”. Now that I think about it, I’m a good person with a big wand.
I have very little if any care for those of the Religious and Political Rite. I don’t care what you identify as politically, sexually or religiously. I don’t care that your rabid sycophantic need requires fed.
I do care that the Rite set want me to come to the light and capitulate or die. This is one of the places where the lamppost comes in to use and either figuratively or literally, I’m good!
The same is true for those of the insistent religious rite insisting we care. These people got the freedom of religion down just fine but don’t know or care about freedom from religion. Even they of the Religious Rite practice not caring. Unfortunately it is not caring that you are being driven bat shit crazy by them.
The freedom to practice your Rite does not give you the right to infringe on my rights.
Canadians do care. Canadians don’t like being made to care and when made to care happens because some cause or politician has lit them up, it aggravates Canadians no end. We have to yap back and we don’t like having to do that either. We’ll do it and we do it real well but we’d rather not because we are a civil civilized people, usually.
I do have cares and causes. If you want to have a conversation with me about what I care about so you can better understand me, I’m generally amenable. My cares and causes are pretty much mainstream, people’s rights and freedoms, the state of the planet and true equality.
Responsible government is very important to me. I’ve written a few pieces on the subject. If you come to read me, those pieces are there if you want them. I’ve also dropped them in to political strings on various social media sites because I do enjoy showing those of the RITE the error of their ways. There is a linked list at the end. If you care to read those pieces great! If not, that’s just fine too.
You learn quickly, or should, what doesn’t work. I think the people screaming for their cause are screaming the wrong thing. I think the “Cause Brigade” should be screaming for people not to care. Don’t care what I am and care about what you are.
Here is a small illustration of making Canadians care. The current Liberal government wanted to fast track Syrian refugees in to Canada to meet a number and date of the Liberals making. The people got up in arms over the fast tracking with damn good reason.
People of all RITES were screaming and fighting. Canadians were made to care.
You’d think those that are supposed to think would know making us care would lead to backlash. A poll was taken and 66% said slow down and get the process right. Don’t go blasting ahead without doing due diligence to meet your time and date stamp. The government actually did listen and slowed down to get it right. In other words, they did their damn job the way the job needed done. We Canadians were able to go back to not caring.
Canadians are also a helpful people with conscience. Try not making us care and see how far you can go and what help you can get. You shouldn’t be surprised cuz that’s how we Canadians are.
Yes Canada has some that are more vocal than most. Yes I would be one of those. Know something else; I’m not wrong on this because I’m never wrong.
G.R. Hambley ©
July 27, 2016
This is a political piece. I could have easily put this on the poignant side, SPASM. I chose here because this is also about being aware, being involved, being relevant. I believe being relevant in the world is important. It doesn’t have to be an in the public eye spotlight position to be relevant. Put the big person underwear on, step up and matter.
Last election, part of the campaign platform was changing FPTP, “First Past The Post”. Looking at PR, “Proportional Representation” in some form. With what I’ve read and seen bandied about on PR and in conjunction with what I know, I’m against Proportional Representation.
I do not want the irrelevant to be made relevant when it comes to electing the governance of Canada.
I do not want an individual such as Michael Ignatieff to possibly be able to keep a seat in the House after being soundly told by the riding at election he was not welcome! I lived in that Etobicoke-Lakeshore riding and was so pleased to see his hat handed to him! You can look at the results from E-L back to 1968 with the link.
You Liberals, be honest, how many of you would have really wanted Ignatieff around? Did it only matter that he was a “Liberal” and therefore worthy of your vote?
You can see in the chart Ignatieff ran 2nd. Were some form of proportional representation being used where 2 candidates were sent to the House from 1 riding, he who was made irrelevant by the constituents might, just might have returned to Ottawa with a seat. The Liberals well knew Ignatieff stood a very good chance to lose his seat in the election.
You can add up for yourself just what proportion of the riding did not want this individuals tail in a seat in the House. The number is significant!
Anyone think any party wouldn’t have tried to cover their Leader’s ass if they could? This is a case where the electorate scared the politicians. Works for me!
I’m not the only one who thinks Ignatieff got exactly what he deserved, packed off to pasture. I do not want to see an incumbent of any party who is defeated returned to Ottawa under some form of Proportional Representation! FYI, Michael Ignatieff the part time Canadian, returned to Harvard.
| Canadian federal election, 2011 | ||||||||
| Party | Candidate | Votes | % | ∆% | ||||
| Conservative | Bernard Trottier | 21,997 | 40.35 | +5.48 | ||||
| Liberal | Michael Ignatieff | 19,128 | 35.08 | -11.05 | ||||
| New Democratic | Michael Erickson | 11,046 | 20.26 | +8.60 | ||||
| Green | David Corail | 2,159 | 3.96 | -3.02 | ||||
| Marxist–Leninist | Janice Murray | 190 | 0.35 | – | ||||
| Total valid votes | 54,520 | 100.00 | ||||||
| Total rejected ballots | 243 | 0.44 | 0.02 | |||||
| Turnout | 54,763 | 64.02 | ||||||
| Eligible voters | 85,547 | – | – | |||||
Chart Source Wikipedia
The last two Liberal Leaders have been chosen for something other than a political skill set. Those who are the relevant have noted that for future use. My personal opinion and this is not a secret, the best choice for Liberal Leader was the Mother of the ½ sister of the current leader, Deborah Coyne.
I did a piece called, “It’s My Rite Right” where I talk about the irrelevant and how they don’t even matter to the 7% solution. It would be terrific were it a significantly higher number but in our current system and mindset, I do not see that number moving above 10%.
The irrelevant to my mind will be given relevance under Proportional Representation. I don’t want the irrelevant to have that representation. More importantly I do not want any party banking on that certain percentage of voters that never deviate from voting their rite without thought. I don’t want the politicians getting something they haven’t earned. I do not want any party counting on “X” number of seats in the House by divine right!
In the election where Ignatieff was dispatched the Liberals were handed their worst result ever. An incredibly bad showing by the Progressive Conservative Party led to the Reform Party and the Conservative Party as we know it today. Both parties rightfully reaped what they had sown.
Trudeau wants centralization of power. One of the things that means is the party can parachute a candidate in at election time and the riding association will not have thing 1 or thing 2 they can do about it. What these fools are counting on is that the sycophant sheeple will just accept what the massah has willed and vote the rite way. If you think all parties aren’t thinking the same thing, think again because all parties are in the business of politics.
If the party parachutes in to a riding sending 2 to Ottawa, they’ve thought, weighed the options and figure they will get their handpicked choice to Ottawa to vote the Leader’s vision as ordered. The only solution to the problem is to give them no votes.
Proportional Representation isn’t required.
How does this fit with y’all, the sycophant irrelevant are claiming divine right to have election reform done how ever the current flavour stick wants the change done. This bunch of irrelevant are operating on the idea that a majority government is the will of the majority of the people. These irrelevant keep having to be reminded not to make others irrelevant. They have to keep being reminded that a shade more than 60% of the voters didn’t vote for the current flavour. Why? Because that 60% plus don’t like the flavour as currently formulated.
What is required is for government to be responsible. What is required is for government to actually listen to the people and not put their selfish and childish behaviour ahead of the people. Tearing something down just because it came in to being under another party is wrong. “R and D”* and not “S and D”** is a requirement!
Proportional Representation, you already got it if you do it right. It starts with involvement in your community. It goes up to the Riding Associations to pick a candidate. It could be a well versed independent.
Those people who are vested in your community and want to honestly contribute to the well being of the community and the country. If you exercise your relevance, the one who best demonstrates those attributes is going to get the greater proportion of votes and rightfully so.
You in your being relevant can learn pretty quickly what any party’s preferences and direction are.
Be relevant and let all the party flavours know you have chosen for forever more to make your vote relevant. That kind of relevance will scare them!
G.R. Hambley ©
July 13, 2016
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** Search and Destroy
It’s My Rite Right!
Had this piece on the go for a while and I find myself back to the start for a preamble so to speak after conversations with a couple friends and an elf. The elf would be one of them coffee elves I like and appreciate.
I am a Canadian first, an Ontarian second and a Torontonian third. Yes, we must deal with the order inversely in our daily lives. Our daily lives go on at the municipal, then provincial and finally the federal level.
Me and the elf were talking about faces, specifically faces in our Provincial and Federal politics. We are talking leaders here and the elf nailed it, I don’t like anybody.
I had to think about it when the elf asked me who I did like. One I liked and were our Canadian politics like that of our friends below us in the USA where you are voting for an individual, this person would have got my vote where the Party never could. That person is Ed Broadbent. I liked him a lot.
I’ve liked facets of others and they include Jean Chretien, Bill Davis, Mike Harris, Paul Martin, Jack Layton and yes Stephen Harper. I don’t know enough about Elizabeth May to say one way or another but she seems okay.
There have been a couple I’ve come to despise, Dalton McGuinty and Kathleen Wynne.
There are three for me that invited immediate disdain, distrust and foreboding. They are Bob, “I’m now currently a Liberal” Rae and the misfit boy toys that are Pierre and Justin Trudeau.
I’ve been following and participating in political feeds in social media. Been doing it some since a few weeks prior to Canada’s national election mid October, 2015.
I’ve been keeping an eye to what is going on over the back fence too. Hello family and friends in the US of A! I see the FBI isn’t charging Hillary. With what the FBI said about Hillary’s behaviour, “extremely careless”, doesn’t that just make you all warm and fuzzy on the competence level she displays!
Prior to Canada’s election the stance taking and posturing of all those who were absolutely right that governance their fanatical way was the only way, was indeed something to see. I’m seeing the same behaviour State side. America has a whole different issue and their choices are much more contracted than Canada’s choices were.
This story and my feelings on the matters I’ve observed have been developing in to a narrow focus. Focusing on what I’ve observed about Political Parties and their followers that display as sycophants.
The sycophants never deviating from what they vote. The singular narrow focus of the vapour locked mindset.
Heaven help anyone that disagreed with the divine ones I’ve observed because you were being sent straight to hell for deviant behaviour.
That scared the crap out of me it did! Hey my guardian angel is Lucifer and lemme tell ya, Luci didn’t tell me that hell was filled with all those self righteous sanctimonious sycophants. I’m going to have to have a talk with that Angel of mine and see about getting all those malignant souls moved to purgatory!
Mindset is what we’re talking about here. The mindset of the lifelong devotee to a single political party. Never looking at other points of view and perspectives. They know in the bottom of their little black hearts that their rite is right. No one ever needs anything different because what they believe by their political religion should be believed by everyone.
Those of you with the locked in tunnel vision that declare as “Liberal”, I got a bulletin for you. You are exactly the same thing you rage against in a different skin. There is no difference between you UltraLiberals and the NeoConservatives or the Dippers. You all buy the party line and vilely vomit back the doctrine and gospel according to your Party.
I see zero tolerance and consideration for others and their views. Not terribly Liberal is it? The conclusion I’ve reached is the last thing about a Liberal is their liberality.
You do not get to be Liberal just by declaring yourself one. Those around you decide if you are liberal by how you conduct yourself.
I referred to myself as having my focus narrow. The difference is I’ve been looking at a hell of a lot of behaviours before reaching conclusion.
Some of those UltraLiberals, with commentary I’ve made that criticizes their anointed leader Justin Trudeau have decreed me to be a Conservative. I’m not. I’m a centrist.
Something else the zealot Liberal fails to take in to consideration when their shiny pony is being taken to task is that their shiny pony is the focus because Liberal with majority is the current flavour!
What the ones with tunnel vision don’t get is that Trudeau as the current flavour stick, it is what he and the Liberal party are doing that is to be watched and criticized, condemned or congratulated.
Of course I have my own ideas of what is a good behaviour and what is bad behaviour. That doesn’t matter to anyone of the Kool-aid set.
The rage against and for Stephen Harper. I know there are UltraLiberals who’ve read what I related and said nothing. I’m a writer and an observer. I understand that no comment can indeed be a comment.
National Post Story; Harper preparing to step down as MP.
The former prime minister’s next career move will involve foreign policy.
I’ve said this and I meant it about Stephen Harper.
Harper should have stepped aside 1 year before election. There were indicators and the CPC should have acted. I’ll get to that!
Stephen Harper did himself, his family, his constituents and this country a great disservice by hanging on when he knew he’d had enough.
I think that when Harper got half way through the campaign it hit him that he couldn’t do 4 more years and that is when he went right off the rails.
What no one takes in to account is the leader of a country be it Prime Minister, President, Chancellor, whatever the designation may be, the leader never gets so much as 1 second off. It wears on you. If you have any conscious and conscience, it has to wear on you. You may be calling something a vacation but this is the bottom line; if something serious enough happens, you are getting the call. You damn well know you’ll be getting a call and you wear it as it wears on you.
Stephen Harper, thank you for your service to Canada. Enjoy what comes next in your life.
This is where I get to it and this brings us to the real villains, the parties themselves. It is all backwards and more and more people are noting it and speaking up against it. The vision of the Leader, what a crock! Our elected officials have got this stuff all backwards.
The Leader is supposed to be representing the vision of the party. The elected are supposed to be in tune and representing their constituents who put them in a seat. It isn’t happening that way and there is only one way these fools are going to get it, you take them out of the seat.
The “Leader” and their advisors are running roughshod over the elected member. The elected member who cares nothing about the people that put them in office kowtow to the Leader. Those elected because they’re afraid of being dismissed from the party and facing pressure to flat out resign their seat.
An advisor never has the right to address caucus as if they are the Leader. Currently Butts & Telford who don’t have a seat and can address the Liberal caucus with Trudeau’s blessing. Before UltraLiberals start spouting the vitriol, it was the Liberal Caucus themselves that leaked it to the press.
I believe Canada needs a term of service for the Leaders and Prime Minister. The parties riding the horse in to the ground then vilifying the carcass. How wrong is that behaviour? If the party itself had a spine they’d be keeping the Leader in check and none of them are doing it.
Next up sycophants and others! Those being designated as sycophants for this purpose are the UltraLiberals, NeoConservatives and Naturally Delusional NDPers. Sorry BQ while you have your deeply warped followers, not being a National Party we all know exactly what you’re about and you fall in to the other category. Green Party I do appreciate that you ran in every riding in Canada’s last election and I give you full marks for being so fully engaged!
It’s now 9 months past the Canadian election and the war rages on. The political religious rites of all sides continue to be championed and vilified by their respective sycophants. I’m seeing lemming behaviour in the blaming and justifying as well from all sides.
There are a few months to go before our American friends and neighbours pick a President. The war that is the political rite rages on for them and will go on after their election concludes as well.
I was talking with a woman from New York City who lives here in Toronto the other day about our cities and countries. She was upset over the FBI finding. We talked about it and we both like Bernie. Doesn’t look like that’s going to happen but it just might.
The 7% solution. No single party in Canada has the numbers on their own to get the big chair in Ottawa. It isn’t possible. If you look at the result for the Conservative majority in 2011 and the Liberal majority in 2015 the numbers are the same. No real difference in the numbers for the winner, 39.5% is close enough.
What moved is where the centrists put their votes. Those 7% decide who gets the chair. Simple stuff. The faithful party voters just cancel each other out and don’t mean a whole lot in the grand scheme.
The parties themselves know the number and it is that 7% they are trying to land. You faithful don’t matter. Of course they don’t want to drive anyone away so under usual circumstances the party doesn’t deviate that far from their platform.
We, all of us together cannot afford those who are absolutely sure their Rite is Right. We need thinking competent people who read, watch and listen to multiple sources before making a decision as to what “X” they’re going to mark on the ballot.
It is up to us lowly citizens to keep the politicians in check. That is our job! The job cannot be done properly by people who aren’t paying attention to the world. For all levels, it is our job to put the people in the seats that will carry their constituents voice up the chain and ensure what we say is heard and acted upon.
This is a hard world. There is world war going on and a war on the world taking place at the same time.
We Canadians shouldn’t be taking each other on, it’s not what we do. The politicians love it because if we’re at each other we aren’t watching them.
Liberals tax and spend because it’s what they do. Conservatives tighten the screws because that’s what they do.
We aren’t getting responsible government. We aren’t getting what we are supposed to be getting from the circuses that are the political parties. It’s happening here at home and from what I read, and hear from friends and family, it isn’t happening in the USA either. No responsible government.
Here in Canada we have a precedent. In my travels I pass the heritage commemorative 3 or 4 times a week and lately, it makes me angry when I pass the plaque. We the citizens are not being served as we should be by the politicians we elect at any level. Responsible Government is nonexistent!
You are free to send this to the politician of your choice with my compliments
We got a real good look at just what Canada is about with the countries refugee revolt. The current flavour sticks had to listen because 66% of the country was saying the same thing. That number of 66% means there are both die hard Liberals and Conservatives thinking and feeling the same thing, DO IT and DO IT RIGHT! If the Liberal date and time stamp wasn’t going to get met, tough! Why? Because getting it right mattered more to Canadians.
Currently the politicians aren’t afraid of us and they should be. I made that observance in a parody shot at the current flavour stick that I did.
I’m not talking about taking the politicos out behind the woodshed and beating them with a big stick. As appealing that may be on some days we just can’t do that. They have to be afraid our vote will go elsewhere and the politicians just aren’t. They see what we do and they know they’ll get their shot. The tax and spend Liberals and the tighten the screws Conservatives. We turn them over fairly regularly and they know their turn will come if they don’t screw up too bad NDP.
Join the light side. The side that scares the crap out of politicians. The thinking, watching and chair deciding side.
Don’t give any political party your undying affiliation and ensure you are personally making a real difference!
I did a piece on Bill C-14 where your right is the Governments duty. On that page there is a link to a page listing every sitting MP. Feel free to tell any or all of them what you think. It is your right.
You know, and I’ve done this before at all 3 levels, marked my ballot so it lets them all know I don’t like any of them!
G.R. Hambley © – all rights reserved
July 07, 2016
Sir; I implore thee pay heed to that of which I bring you notice
Harkin I say, lend thy ear, give grace with quiescent presence
Overt displays, set them firmly beneath still feet lest they escape
Resultant of behaviours, yours, none with consideration shall tolerate
Talk of the cheapest nature makes cause for concern, draws ire out
Fidgeting mind exposed, given away by the motion of thine eyes
Understanding others doth lend insight to understanding thy self
Such consideration gifted thee; yet still righteous certainty remains
Each and every belligerent, arrogant, ignorant utterance so noted Sir
Due you by invitation, from me with malice aforethought, comeuppance
G.R. Hambley ©
April 17, 2016
I wasn’t sure on which of my two spots to bring something like this out on. I brought it here because this is about equality and behaviour. Equality in behaviour might be a more apt way to phrase. I haven’t seen much in the way of equality from women and that troubles me greatly because women say that is what they really want, equality. Maybe that position by women is just for show.
Toronto Star, March 26, 2016 – Trial Proves One Thing
It would be beneficial to read the story from “The Star” before continuing on with my piece. The greatest part of what I wrote is in response to the Star story by Catherine Porter.
The events of this trial as it took place spurred highly emotional responses. Not always a bad thing but on this topic and the way it went, checking the tude, and the gender bias would have been a damn good thing for many to do!
You can read two others stories I’ve placed links to at the end.
The bottom line and I’ll give it to you now is this; What took place on the stand led directly to the result.
And I said in response to the story:
Someone has to take the hard line opposite side so I’ll do it. That would be equal treatment.
A real nice one way slant in the Star’s story. Yes, lip service to the male perspective. This piece is written by what can only be a man hating Feminist.
Tell me, how is someone a creep when they’ve admitted prior they like rough? Might not be to the taste of the majority but that doesn’t make someone who practices such a creep. Ever hear of, “Erotic Asphyxia”? While you’re at it have a look at, “Autoerotic Asphyxiation”, maybe try it out!
Tell me, are women (or men) incapable of asking what exactly someone means by rough or only capable of unintelligible cooing?
Tell me, what kind of woman seeks out a man who’s admitted to his tastes, encounters those tastes, reportedly didn’t like it and then goes back? There is no “Stockholm Syndrome” here. No one was held captive.
What I see in this is that every one of those women wanted to land the guy for their own interests after the incident. Men have a few words for women like them but let’s just go with, “Gold Digger”.
Tell me, who doesn’t know that the defence is going to do its job in court? Maybe a woman running on the “boo hoo I can say anything I want and I’m entitled to different treatment” plan?
Tell me, how are these women not responsible for their own slaughter in the court?
Tell me, why shouldn’t the colluding, conniving lying DeCoutere apologize for the damage done? With DeCoutere we know what she did from evidence. What she and the others did made it easy for the defendant not to take the stand. I haven’t seen any women condemning that action.
Tell me, should these women be prosecuted for colluding and contriving to send someone to jail?
Far from perfect is one thing. Colluding, conniving and lying are something entirely different! I’m not seeing a whole hell of a lot of condemnation by women for what those women did. Well then it must be okay by those women who don’t condemn the action for women to conduct themselves in such a manner.
Don’t recall perfectly the traumatic event? I’ve had a few in my life and let me tell you, like most people, I remember that painful more than a good number of pleasurable!
As for the civil route, we’ve seen it in an instance of extreme assault, O.J. Simpson. Most think a whole lot of truth didn’t come out in that endeavour.
Tell me, how is it anyone would be happy for a battle after the war had been lost? Maybe because of some Feminist belief they should just be given everything they want because a man was involved?
Tell me, is it any wonder there is a nasty connotation tied to, “Feminist” that both men and some women just abhor? Look it up.
Tell me, who are the creeps? The women for what they did, or the man who we didn’t have to hear from because of their creepy actions?
Try being an equalist, it works best, especially so in a court of law.
G.R. Hambley March 26, 2015
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The photograph you see was a gift to me for me to use as I see fit from a very good friend, a woman in South Africa. My friend took the shot at Robben Island. The photograph is Madiba’s cell. My piece is about injustice and equality so you’re damn right this photograph fits!
A couple other stories for your reading displeasure, I hope.
National Post
Ghomeshi guide for reporting your sexual assault
Scene Location:
1 of 4 very nice coffee spots and I’m not telling you which one.
Do I ever tell you which one?
Scene time:
7ish on a Saturday night.
Door opens:
Miss Blonde Semi Big Hair and later day Mr Saturday Night Fever enter
ACTION!
Bear names Relationship Soap Opera; “At The Brassy Rail”.
Bear has alternative more classic spaghetti western title as backup;
Is my delicacy with the more classic title appreciated?
Public Displays of Affection
It really isn’t that difficult a concept. I hope the guy in this story was just crass and thought he was just being affectionate but I really don’t believe so. There was to much evidence to the contrary. He was showing off for whom ever cared to look. It was a display of ownership.
I believe in the public display of affection. I even think it is cute when you see a couple with a hand in the other persons back pocket as they stroll along. The odd butt pat/pinch aint bad either. Generally delivered just to see you jump.
There are things you shouldn’t be doing male or female because they show your insecurity, your inconsideration and your territorial affliction.
Verily I testify the word that strands out in my mind is embarrassing. I saw that in the Woman’s face and demeanor. You don’t want to embarrass anyone or yourself. I can appreciate that level of affection if it was affection but in this case, it wasn’t the case.
It doesn’t take much thought to know what the boundaries are. Someone seeing what I saw could come to other conclusions than the one I made. It also makes you seriously wonder about the individuals behaviour in other settings. There are times we all have a certain amount of “it’s just strangers around” so actions between a couple have no consequence.
The thing is you just don’t know if somewhere down the road one of those strangers is going to remember you. I’m here to tell you it happens and it can be very uncomfortable. No it wasn’t what I did. It was what I saw and remembered and related at a later date.
I’m a believer of a place for everything and everything in its place. I also believe that if you’re discreet all the world is a bedroom if that is something you and your companion choose. You’re supposedly an adult so you know the risks involved. Carpe Ursine! errrrr Diem 😉
G.R. Hambley – all rights reserved
October 04, 2015
And consider others too
I thought of posting this on SPASM and decided against it because as unflappable as I am, I’m human too. There are things that others do that make me want to go off on them for their behaviour(s). I made the decision rather quickly to bring this piece here to the transitionu blog.
I’m a people too people and as a people please keep in mind this quote I saw and wished I’d written; “Don’t mistake my attitude for my personality. My personality is what I am. My attitude depends on what you are.”
I’m on real good terms with the elves at my coffee spots. They take good care of me and I am very considerate of them. My consideration extends to talking with the elves singularly on occasion as they know I am a Life Coach.
I also like to write and believe it or not, have coffee at my coffee spots. My coffee spots are not only functional, they are observational. I see the crap that frustrates the elves. I don’t blame them one damn bit and often wonder how they manage to be as gracious as they are.
The elves have shared their feelings with me on occasion and I decided to write about some of the things that frustrate them no end.
You see an elf, any of the fine service elves for that matter and you encounter agitation, try being a good and compassionate customer and see where that gets you. Maybe that dumb ass a couple of spots in front of you did something really over the top. If you smile and say, “having a tough one?” the elf generally comes down and appreciates that someone noticed.
As an illustration I’ll use an instance I was involved in. The elf is talking to me and the dumb ass beside me who had ear buds in, figured the elf was talking to them. This individual wasn’t pleased. After all they had to stop looking at the dam device and take one of the buds out. I admit that was quite the inconvenience! Having to actually pay the hell attention to what you’re doing is a terrible burden.
Poor elf has to tell the dumb ass she wasn’t talking to them and felt obliged to apologize to me. The look the elf got from the dumb ass wasn’t pleasant.
Dumb ass is lucky the elf interjected because I would of went off on them. Yes I will give you a dressing down if your behaviour causes unpleasantness for me for those that are unable to retort. I’m not afraid to confront those that are completely wrapped up in themselves and by consequence, treating others without consideration.
The coffee spots I go to are not restaurants. It is not take a seat and receive full service with someone to wait on you. Most of the people they serve are on a walk through. Just like a drive through but on foot.
FYI, those spots aren’t phone booths for you to duck in to off a noisy street either. Just so you know, if I could of found the nattering fools spouse, I’d of told them what I heard for subjecting me to their yapping!
To show you without question just how much the coffee spots I go to are not restaurants, you can’t get horse radish mayo for the beef brisket sandwich or mustard for the damn pretzel. I am so not pleased! But, that displeasure is an argument for a different place!
There is the odd person that has no idea on how to conduct themselves in a line up. I don’t care if all you want is something simple and straight up. The elves don’t care what you want either. The elves and me and the other people in line care about getting served in turn. Wait your damn turn and shut the hell up. The elves don’t need the abuse of the entitled who figure their time is more important than any other person’s time!
I and others do not want to listen to your entitled whining. There are some who will tell you about it when you’re misbehaving. I’m one of those that will.
Some customers stay and make use of the establishment after getting whatever it was they wanted from the walk through. Most are good about putting their waste in the garbage cans but there are a few that leave their shit behind when they leave.
I’m not a frequent user of fast food establishments but it seems every time I’ve gone in to one some self centred slob has left their garbage behind on a table. This not only bugs the elves of that establishment, it bugs me too. I really resent having to clean some thoughtless and selfish slob’s garbage off a table to use it.
The elves at these establishments aren’t real thrilled about having to clean up the crap that should of been disposed of by the customer either. I’ve seen food scraps, newspapers, lipstick tubes, business cards, coffee cups that are half filled, soiled napkins, product packaging and not from the establishment I’m in to name some.
Clean up after yourself and if you can’t do that go eat at home and leave the shit wear ever you like so I and others don’t have to clean up after your lazy dumb ass.
Next time you encounter an agitated elf, consider just maybe the elf had to be off doing something they shouldn’t have needed to do. Off doing because some thoughtless dumb ass customer with an inflated sense of entitlement didn’t pick up after themselves!
The elves of the establishments are neither indentured servants or slaves. My time is more valuable to me than your time is to me. Kindly remember these facts and govern yourself accordingly.
Just one more thing, you were in the line. You passed the display case and saw the menu boards. Have your damn mind made up when you get to the front of the line. As a general rule of thumb, you got about 30 seconds to make up your damn mind if you haven’t done so already before people behind you start getting antsy when you get to the front of the line. This living a film scene repeatedly will somewhere, sometime, cause someone behind you to ream your dumb ass and you’ll deserve it!
Gary Hambley
Certified Professional Coach
Sometimes I’m a human being. Sometimes I’m a human doing.
I’m always humane unless you put me in a position where I have to be something else.
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