Quoth Me #12 – Successful Result
The more people that know of the true condition of those they have to work with, the better the chances of a successful result.
Better the devil you know.
An old adage and a darn good one.I’ve stated previously I’m not a fan of the word cliche. My thesaurus describes “cliche” as trite and obvious. Now an “adage” is different something we can get behind!
In our working life we have to deal with a large number of personalities.We have very few options in our working life and must work within the structure to resolve issues and disputes.
We all want to be successful. We all want to get ahead. None of us want to be taken advantage of or taken for granted. Speaking up, standing up is not wrong, In fact it is very right. When people know you will stand up for yourself and be accountable for what you say and it is noticed and for the most part, appreciated.
By demonstrating the stand up, speak up it gives you credibility when you call others on their behaviour. Many times making what you see known to an individual isn’t given consideration by that individual. For whatever reason, they don’t take what you told them privately under consideration.
In some cases others have brought matters to the individual’s attention and not had success either. When this takes place what invariably happens is open complaining takes place. There are those who still see nothing wrong in how they’re conducting themselves and truly believe everyone but them is wrong.
That is an unfortunate circumstance because it tends to leave the offending individual isolated and when vulnerable, unassisted.
In our personal lives we can rid ourselves of those that are to our own minds impossible to deal with. Be rid of those that aggravate us no end. Removing yourself from those, when you can, that are having that effect on you is a good decision. There are exceptions of course.
It is worth trying to resolve issues with those in our personal lives before ridding ourselves of those people.
Knowing how to talk to them and others for that matter is vitally important! I said in my “The Rules Of Life” piece that you can say anything you want and I meant it. I also said you just can’t say it any way you want and I meant that too.
G.R. Hambley ©
September 13, 2015